How should christian married people handle friendships with the opposite sex?

“We’re just friends. Can’t I have any friends?”
“We’ve never even touched each other.”
“We aren’t doing anything wrong.”
“You have jealousy issues.”
“You’re too controlling.”
“Don’t you trust me?”
“You’re the only one who sees a problem here.”
“I have no feelings for him/her other than friendship.”
“They’re like that with everyone.”
“You’re over-thinking and imagining things.”
“It’s not like we’re kissing or anything like that!”
“So I’m not allowed to have friends any more?”
“I’m sure they don’t have any romantic feelings for me.”
“I don’t have to tell you every single detail of what I do. What if I
forget something?”
“They’re in a relationship too, don’t worry.”
“You’re really insecure. You should have more confidence in yourself.”
“I don’t want to hurt her/him by not being friendly any more.”
“That didn’t come across right, but I know his/her intentions aren’t bad.”
“I trust him/her to not go over the line.”
“She/He’s just different and acts differently.”
“She/He doesn’t have same-gender friends to talk to.”
“She/He’s christian too.”
“I can’t believe you’d think I’d cheat on you!”
“You’re too conservative and old-fashioned.”
“You don’t know what she/he’s like, but I do!”
“I wouldn’t question anything if the same situation happened to you
because I trust you.”

If you’ve heard this from your spouse or you yourself have said these things when your spouse wants to talk about your friend of the opposite gender, be careful! It doesn’t have to be physical to be wrong. And just because you may not like them “in that way” doesn’t mean it’s ok either.

This is a very important topic that is many times ignored because it is difficult, can seem too restrictive and conservative. But it has to be discussed with your spouse. As soon as possible, raise the topic in an adequate moment when both of you are alone, wide awake, in good humour, with no distractions and have time to spare. (I know – when that adequate moment comes, you’d rather have intercourse with them, but bear in mind that this conversation will spare you from future rocky roads when both of you won’t even want to have intercourse because of a situation that happened.)

Initial, obvious and important considerations:
– Physical and emotional adultery are wrong and painful for both sides (and many times even for the third person involved, family and friends), have a snowball effect, are difficult to forgive and forget, cause (even more) lack of trust and honour and love that are hard to build up again. On that note, emotional affairs can be just as or even more (!) painful as physical affairs;
– The most common way of committing adultery is, by far, through developing friendships with the opposite sex that naturally grow “by mistake” (not by actively seeking it or being coerced by a random person – ex: prostitute);
– Alongside prayer (and fasting), setting boundaries is the most effective way of getting out of trouble.
– It is possible to change your mindset and lifestyle on this matter no matter how long you’ve been in the old one, what culture you live in or what general society has to say about it. Besides, honouring God and having a happy, healthy, long-lasting marriage relationship is totally worth the effort!
– You are not as strong as you think you are! As humans, we have a sinful, prideful, selfish and self-righteous nature that can very well bring us away from God and our spouses if we are not careful.

Insightful verses:
– Proverbs 27:12 “Those who are prudent see danger and take refuge, but the naive continue on and suffer the consequences.” (ESV) “A prudent man foreseeth the evil, and hideth himself; but the simple pass on, and are punished.” (KJV)
Matthew 5:27-28 “Ye have heard that it was said by them of old time, Thou shalt not commit adultery: But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.” (KJV)
Proverbs 4:23 “Above everything else guard your heart, because from it flow the springs of life.” (ISV) “Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life.” (KJV)
Malachi 2:16 “Indeed, the LORD God of Israel says that he hates divorce, along with the one who conceals his violence by outward appearances,” says the LORD of the Heavenly Armies. “So guard yourselves carefully, and don’t be unfaithful.” (ISV) “For the LORD, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away: for one covereth violence with his garment, saith the LORD of hosts: therefore take heed to your spirit, that ye deal not treacherously.”(KJV)

The Bible talks about the danger of sexual immorality (fornication) many times and gives guidelines for people to have a good marriage. Do not take this issue lightly or naively! Do not think you’re automatically protected from sin or third-parties if you are married! The devil will use any little door to get in your life and destroy your marriage because he hates marriage! So do not open those dangerous doors and think you are in control of the situation. Study and pray about it and do your best to obey the Lord.

We live in a fallen world that is so corrupt that it has been influencing many christians without them realising it. What’s “normal” to the world doesn’t mean it’s ok. Our minds have become so sexualised that we have been loosing our senses, stretching our boundaries like elastic bands until they snap in our faces and we don’t even know where we went wrong. Please understand that I am not trying to make you scared or apprehensive. Instead, I want to show you the vaccination in order to not get the sickness to not have to show you which remedy may heal the problem you’ve got because you did not have precaution.

I’ve researched intensely about how christians should deal with having opposite-sex friends and have found some webpages that have been very helpful to me. So, if you are having doubts about this topic, I greatly encourage you to read these external links that talk about this issue practically:

Detailed explanation of how important boundaries are and where place them. (Disclaimer: This is not a Christian website, but it is spot-on on the issue of opposite-sex friendships.)
– List of questions to ask yourself or to give to your spouse to answer them honestly in order to know if a certain opposite-sex friendship should end.
Rules to apply and example of a true story of a woman who had to change her views and ways regarding opposite-sex friendships when she married.
Case study for married people and insight for single people as a means of precaution.
How to avoid emotional adultery and chemical reactions “I’m not just talking about sexual attraction. I’m referring to a reaction of two hearts, the chemistry of two souls.”
How to deal with jealousy issues. Is jealousy the problem or is it a consequence of a problem?
Rules, real case for married and single (women especially).
Explanation specifically to men in a humorous tone, explaining why the psycho crazy jealous wife is actually right.
I am thinking of having an affair (for women).

When talking to your spouse about this issue, don’t just say things have to and will change. Set actual rules and boundaries, talk about real and imaginary situations and what to do in each example. Highlight what needs immediate change and be completely honest and transparent with each other about the past and the present. Be practical and be quick! Give each other your passwords to everything online, get rid of all friendships with former lovers, always let them know about who you are engaging with, talk about former and present friends that have bothered you or them at some point, be bold about your marriage to other people and put your priorities straight – God, spouse, then others!

Because of certain “passages” that were open – be it by sinning knowingly or by naivety – there may be demons that entered into your marriage life. To get rid of those demons, I recommend reading this website page that has helped me get rid of a specific demon that was tormenting my marriage.

Onward married christian soldiers!

Testing the spirit.

I had a dream when I was a child when a demon tried to trick me into thinking it was a messenger from God. It went like this.

Three angels (fallen, but I did not know this) came to me and said they had something to show me. They were very pretty, wearing white clothes, had a beautiful face and smile. This is why I thought they were angels. We started walking through old, brown and grey dusty paths. It was day time. There were lots of little houses around and the angel said one of them said it was going to show me around Israel. It said some things about what happened in certain places, pointing to them. The other ones were walking along with us. I remember getting very excited to see and know these things. It then pointed to a house and said, “And there is Mary with baby Jesus.” At this point I was very happy. But it went on, “And as you can see, Jesus was actually a girl.” I replied, “No, that’s wrong. Jesus was a boy.” “That’s what people say, but the truth is Jesus is a girl.” Mary started looking at me and was about to show me baby Jesus. I turned to the angel and said, “No! No he’s not! That’s not true! He’s a boy! Go away in the name of Jesus!” These fallen angels started changing their facial expressions to a mean one and seemed like they were about to attack me. Suddenly we went to another place of just one colour and that Israel place dissipated and some real, godly angels came and fought them with bows and arrows. There were about five of them and their clothing was so shiny and bright I could not see them properly. They attacked the demons and I just stood there watching. Then I woke up relieved that God had sent His (real!) angels to help me.

This may seem like a silly dream, especially because of the “girl Jesus” situation, but for me, as a child, it was very intense. I felt sad that demons were tricking me to think they were angels (and for believing them). Normally I’d have dreams with demons that I was sure that they were demons (for they were ugly and terrifying), and so I’d immediately cast them out in the name of Jesus. It was and still is rare for me to have dreams with angels, that’s why I got excited when the demon that looked like an angel came in my dream.

This is why it’s important to know what you’re dealing with and to test the spirit behind things. Even as a child (so parents, teach your children)! Here are a few examples of things which can confuse people, “wolves in sheep clothing”:

– Mystical, interesting creatures (Ex: “sweet, good” witches, fairies);
– “Biblical” films, cartoons, books (the devil knows the Bible/the letter kills. Ex: Noah movie, LOTR, Narnia);
– Dolls, toys, paintings (beautiful, cute, harmless? Ex: spider man, crying child, furby, pokemon);
– Testimonies of becoming a Christian (but not really. Ex: JRR Tolkien, Nonkoliso Ngeleka);
– Visions and dreams of angels, demons, heaven, hell, etc (Ex: Colton Burpo, Wendy Chousmatison);
– Prophecies (false prophets and preachers. Ex: Ellen G. White, Inri Christo).
– Miracles (healings, talking to dead loved ones? Ex: Benny Hinn, Todd Bentley)

Ask God to help you discern between good and evil by giving you wisdom. Ask Him to not lead you into temptation!

“Beloved, do not believe every spirit, but test the spirits to see whether they are from God, for many false prophets have gone out into the world.” 1 John 4:1

“Wherefore by their fruits ye shall know them.” Matthew 7:20

On how to test the spirit behind things and people, I recommend reading this post by John Piper.

Signs of God – Personal testimony

My husband and I have recently moved cities and we’re staring from “zero”. Before marrying, we were praying for God to show us where we should live. We had an option of 4 countries that are far away from each other. So, during those months of prayer, God began “deleting” some places for various reasons such as jobs, high flight prices and visas, letting us know He wanted us to live in Brazil. But, Brazil is a big country and we wanted to know specifically where we should live. I was praying for God to show my husband (then fiancee) in a vision or dream where we should live because I felt that if He showed him, my husband would feel like more like a leader and head of the family. My husband then had a vision of a map and he drew out the map and sent it to me via Skype. (We were in a long distance relationship.) I then said I had no idea where that place was, and we’d have to look for it. We just knew it was close to water, which could be a lake, river or sea. So, we went on Google Maps and started searching for a similar place. My husband then sent me a link of a place that looked exactly like the one in his vision. The map was perfectly compatible. This is how we knew where we should live.

The city God wanted us to live was one I had never heard of and knew nothing about and knew nobody. About three weeks before the wedding ceremony we were still searching for a place to stay (someone’s house) in our new-city-to-be but nobody knew someone who could help us. It was crazy when someone asked us where we were gong to live at the wedding ceremony day and before that and we said we didn’t know yet, but we knew what city it was. A friend of mine then said she knew a guy from the city we were going to live in and added that she hadn’t spoke to him in 2 years but he was very cool and she was sure he could help. I added him on Facebook but he didn’t say he’d help us then, just a few months afterwards. He said we couldn’t stay at his house and put a request on his Facebook page asking if anyone had a spare room and his friend said he did, and that God told him he was going to help someone that needed a place to stay. All was arranged to stay with this friend of a friend of a friend about 1 week before moving! (This was already after we had married, when we were staying at my parent’s house.) Needless to say, as the days went passed, people asked us about where we would live and thought we were crazy! What was interesting was that when we said we were going to live somewhere we’ve never been and don’t know anyone from there, but we were going to stay in a friend’s friend’s house, many christians said it was a bad idea, that it was dangerous and naive and so on (even when we explained the vision), but many non-christians said it was awesome, adventurous and cool.

We finally moved in November 2013 and went straight to this friend of of a friend of a friend’s house. We stayed with him for a month before renting out a little house for us. During this time we were given so many things from different people we’ve never seen before, all with different reasons… We arrived here with just some clothes and an air mattress, but God used many people and now we have lots of things. We were given a wardrobe, a bed, a stove, chairs and table. God is so good! Each of these things were given to us in a miraculous way. We even found the house we are now renting in a miraculous way too. But if I keep typing all the wonders God has done I would write too much! We had to buy some things but God helped us to buy them really cheaply out of someone else or a second hand shop.

One thing that happened that impacted me a lot was that we were out of money and we didn’t know what to do because we had to pay the rent the next day. We needed exactly 100 reais (about 43 dollars) more to pay the rent. We went to a random church on Sunday and the pastor said that we had to learn to live in dependancy of God and that He would take care of us, but we had to have faith. (The pastor was preaching to all the people there but I felt that message was specifically for us.) We then went home and I felt very loved by God and knew He was going to perform a miracle. I slept in peace. That same day a friend called my husband saying he had something to give to us and so my husband met with him the next day. That friend then said a man from his church came up to him with 100 reais and said God told him to give it to him, but it was not for him but he would know who it was for. And this friend felt it was for us. And so he gave my husband the 100 reais that came from someone else. The exact amount we needed to pay the rent that day! God is so wonderful! I felt even more loved by God and knew that He was taking care of us.

Last month, I started working in a place that was not very good, because people kept bullying me, saying bad things behind my back, cursing me and God and lots of other bad things. I was not feeling well there. Lots of questions aroused in my head like, “Why is God allowing this to happen? Am I supposed to be here in this job?” Every day I was crying a lot and it was very difficult for me. I was asking God for a sign that I should leave that place or stay there, but felt very confused as if God wasn’t talking to me. I’ve asked God for signs before, but they have never been a specific request. In other words, I’d say something like, “God, please give me sign so that I may know if I should ____.” But I’ve never said, for example, “God, give me sign so that I may know if I should ____ and may that sign be ____.” So, I’d always leave what the sign was for Him to decide and when the sign came, sometimes it could be confusing if it was actually a sign from God, or just a coincidence, or maybe my interpretation of a normal event. One morning I woke up and felt an urge to cry out to God for a specific sign, for I wasn’t coping any more. I was kneeling beside my bed about to pray when a thought came about the birds I see every day. (Every day as I went to work, lots of birds would fly over me. There was not one day they didn’t do this.) I asked God to not make the birds fly over me that day if I was supposed to quit my job. I said this with lots of faith and determination. I left my house and guess what… not a single bird flew over me! I looked up to the heavens and thanked God. That same day I asked to leave my job. This was the first time I’ve ever asked God for a specific sign and He gave it to me.

Now I’m asking God for direction as to what I’m supposed to do. I’m looking for jobs but I’m not sure if He wants me to have a job or not. These days that I’ve been jobless have been a time for me to know God more, read the Bible and pray more. It also was good to be jobless as we’ve moved house again because the other house had too many rats and was falling apart. I know God has put my husband and I in this city for a divine purpose but we still don’t know why. All we did was obey. Now we are waiting for the next step we should take. If you feel in your heart, please pray for us. We don’t know what church community we should take part in either and this can be very confusing. The church we’re currently going to now doesn’t bring peace in my heart but my husband is tired of jumping from church to church every Sunday so that’s why we stayed there. I feel we should have a church-house group and am praying for confirmation about that still.

A biblical study on zombies.

There are people who have been attacked by zombies – some are attacked in the material world (like in the Miami zombie case), but most are attacked in the spiritual level (they happen in dreams and visions). This apocalyptical plague’s tendency is to worsen.

First of all, let’s clarify that there are two types of zombies:
– The living zombie: According to voodoo (sorcery, witchcraft), their soul is taken out and they act by instinct, as happened with Nebuchadnezzar, one of Babylon’s king, when his understanding was taken away.
– The dead zombie: They are called “egun/egungun” in african rituals. They are not demons. They are dead people that are roving the earth, sucking people’s energies, in order to stay on Earth. In the Bible, we have a case in 1 Samuel 23, of the medium of Endur, where the egun came up to earth and tricked king Saul, saying it was the prophet Samuel. In Haiti voodoo rituals, people often dig up the dead to resuscitate them and pay honours to them.

Science only explains the “living zombie” case. Scientists discovered that the human mind is divided into 3 parts. Each one of them is linked with a type of human activity: Emotional, rational and instinctive.

Emotional: Limbic System – Emotion (feelings, relationship/nurturing, images and dreams, play)
Rational: Neocortex – Thought (including planning, language, logic & will, awareness)
Instinctive: Reptilian Brain – Instinct (survival, breathing/swallowing/heartbeat, startle response, having sex – reproducing, aggressiveness)

In this way, science explains that a living zombie is a person whose rational and emotional sides are taken away from them, and only her reptilian brain works, thus trying to survive with their primitive instincts. (This is why reptilians and zombies are so alike.) Science doesn’t have anything to say about the dead zombies, the ones that emerge from the abyss… but the Bible does!

We read in the book of the prophet Daniel that he predicted the resurrection of the dead, saying some people would a resurrect to life, others to shame and eternal horror. “And many of those who sleep in the dust of the earth shall awake, some to everlasting life, some to shame and everlasting contempt/abhorrence.” Daniel 12:2 What would this “eternal horror” that the prophet Daniel is referring to? Would this be the zombies’ reality? Maybe Daniel knew more things about zombies for he lived in Babylon, where he was chief of the magicians. Daniel 5:11

In the book of Daniel, we read that the king of Babylon had his soul taken away, along with his understanding, leading him into a life of instincts, just like the animals. Daniel 5:21 And so, would Nebuchadnezzar have become a zombie?

We know that Daniel lived a vegetarian food-style and kept away from the king’s table. Daniel 1:16 But what was it that was served on that table? Maybe human meat? We have an answer for that question in Jeremiah 51:34 “Nebuchadnezzar king of Babylon has devoured us, he has thrown us into confusion, he has made us an empty jar. Like a serpent he has swallowed us and filled his stomach with our delicacies, and then has spewed us out.” What about the king’s wine? Well, it was probably blood, Daniel 1:8 because Babylon, in Revelation 17:6, was accused of drinking blood. And so, Daniel decided to become a vegetarian.

By the way, when Daniel was thrown into the lion’s den, the lions didn’t devour him because the Lord sent an angel to shut their mouths. But what types of angels were Daniel’s companions? Would they be the green angels – from the same lineage as the archangel Gabriel? We can know that by reading Daniel 10:6. I believe Daniel’s vegetarian diet also helped, because some lion tamers eat vegetables so that the lions don’t smell the meat that is embedded in the bodies of those who eat meat. Maybe Daniel becoming a vegetarian was a divine strategy to maintain him alive in Babylon. When the king of Babylon turned into a zombie, he had to submit himself to a vegetarian diet too, by eating herbs. Daniel 5:21 Would this be a way of escaping the zombies?

Zechariah 11:910 says that, in the end of the Grace period, humans would be condemned to eat each other’s meat. Revelation 9:3-6 says that when a star falls on the ground, the bottomless pit shall open and loosen the locusts rising up from depths to devour people. But they do not devour anything green. The bible says that these locusts will sting people and the torment of that sting is like that of a scorpion.

What can the sting of a scorpion do to someone? The neurotoxins produced by scorpions act by stimulating nerve endings. The body of the person who was bitten releases chemical substance mediators who bring disorder in the circulatory system. The person has convulsions, tremors and involuntary muscle contractions. This explains the powers that certain preachers that throw people on the floor have – their anointing comes from these eguns. The famous preacher Benny Hinn, for example, clearly said he will seek the anointing by praying at the tomb of Kuhlman Kathryn.

What do zombies eat first about people? Their eyes. The legends say they attack the head, eyes and devour brains. Where Sodom and Gomorrah were full of zombies? The angels who were destroying the city blinded its people and warned the family of Lot to not look back. But Lot’s wife looked and was turned into a statue of salt. Maybe the cannibal eguns entered into her when she looked. Genesis 19 (When the eguns appear in african spiritual tribal work, they can not be seen, so they cover themselves, just like in 1 Samuel 28:13-14.) Then it rained fire (meteor?) and sulfur (salt!) on the cities of Sodom and Gomorrah and even today there is the Dead Sea there, where those cities once were.

In the book of Jude 1:6-7 the’s an important revelation about what was happening in Sodom. They were practicing sex in the spiritual world. There are people who have out of body experiences to sexually relate with people when they are sleeping, moved by the lust of the eyes. And the person wakes up thinking it was a dream, but it was not a dream. The prostitution that the book of Revelations talks about that happens in the great city of Babylon happens in the material realm, but it progresses into the spiritual realm. The Bible says in Revelation 22:11, he that is holy, let him be more holy, and who is filthy, let him be more filthy. Therefore, there is a progression in the sinful state. If you research about the life of cannibal killers, you will see that they started with prostitution, afterwards going to the field of ideas. They began to fantasize things in their head and then do perverted sex and end up eating the flesh of the people with whom he had relations. These psychopaths passed into the spiritual field, which is infested by spiritual eguns. So they became easy prey and became zombies controlled by cannibalistic eguns.

Let’s now go to Egypt, where the babies were thrown into the river Nile, where the crocodiles were. Exodus 1:22 The crocodile was an adored animal in Egypt, and pharaoh was also called a crocodile. Did he eat the babies? Ezequiel 29:3 We can also ask other questions such as: Were the hebrews turned into zombies when they were working on those pharaonic constructions after eating human meat? When the Israelites went out of Egypt, the Lord determined that they should have a mana diet. Exodus 16:35 And on the day that they desired to eat of the Egyptian food, millions of them died in the desert. Numbers 11:34 But, what was this Egyptian food? Meat! Numbers 11:4

The Israelites coming out of Egypt is very similar to the church’s rapture. In Egypt, one of the plagues that happened was the frog plague, which also appears in the end of times in Revelation 16:13-16, where the spirits of the false prophets are compares to frogs, that come to deceive people. These prophets come to zombify the people in mass for them to fight against Christ. In Haiti they say that in the frog’s body, there is a substance that is capable of making a person dead for a few minutes, making them go into a zombie state.

The eguns appear in visions as bodies in decomposition. Jesus could’ve been seeing just that in the pharisees when He said, “Woe to you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites ! For you are like whitewashed tombs which on the outside appear beautiful, but inside they are full of dead men’s bones and all uncleanness.” Matthew 23:27 Jesus also said in another occasion,“Follow Me, and allow the dead to bury their own dead.” Matthew 8:28

The false prophets zombify people because their anointment comes from the cannibal eguns. (For example, when they say, “You have to challenge God, for He has to fulfill his Word!” or “God will exalt you!” or “God will fill your pockets up with money!”) God told us to come out of Babylon, for the time has come for Babylon to be devoured by the beast. Babylon, or Egypt, symbolise the fallen Christianity, that is modified, an adulterer and corrupted.

The fallen angels that acted in Sodom and Gomorrah are locked up, waiting for the day of the judgment to be released. This will happen in the end of the grace period. Luke 17:26-29 Jesus said the end of times will be like the days of the great flood and in Sodom and Gomorrah. What was happening during both situations? In Noah’s time, the nephilims were possessing/having sex with the human daughters. Genesis 6:4 So, in both situations, prostitution in a spiritual level was taking place.

So, how do the eguns start oppressing people? Through blasphemy, pornography, insults and offenses. The person starts hearing blasphemies against God in their head. Many curse words and obscene pictures come to mind. Revelation 13:1-6 And so, the person thinks their the one producing those things, but that’s not true. Their blasphemies against God, so these spirits start to influence the person’s thoughts, beginning a period of oppression. Then, the spirits start invading the person’s privacy when they are sleeping. The person then starts to commit sexual perversions and desire human meat. It’s a strong feeling that comes from inside of the people that are used to committing adultery in the spiritual level. Galatians 5:17

Amongst all these enigmas lies a very important enigma in Egypt that signifies the real freedom. It was the death of the lamb and its blood on the hebrew’s doors. Only by the blood of Jesus can we find true freedom!

If you have been having dreams about zombies, about having perverted sexual relations with people you don’t know, are thinking about bad things or desiring a lot of meat, I hope all this writing will open your eyes and you ask God for help.

Romans 8:8 – Those who are in the flesh cannot please God.

Wicca and Christianity

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This drawing is a message from a wiccan to Christians.

I don’t know about you, but when I saw this picture, my heart ached. It saddens me on how Christians will just “go with the flow”, do what’s popular and cool, do what your family has done for generations without questioning it, practise pagan things with each other.

Please, please take time to research. To question. To pray. To read the Bible. To ask God for understanding about these things and for mercy and forgiveness. What do you think Ephesians 6:12 was about? “For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the cosmic powers over this present darkness, against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly places.” A joke? Nothing to worry about? May your spiritual eyes be open in the name of Jesus!

Let me mention just a few things that you should be aware of, in topics, so that you may know what I’m specifically talking about:

– Participating in halloween in any way – be it by pumpkin carving, trick or treating, scaring people, dressing up…
– Bringing satanic symbols into your life – on your clothes, in your house, hand signals…
– Making Christmas a pagan party – decorating Christmas trees, focusing on presents (false gratitude, consumerism)…
– Making Easter/Passover a pagan party – eating or decorating chocolate eggs, introducing bunnies…
– Liking books, films or series that glorify the occult/wicca – such as Harry Potter, Twilight, Sabrina witch, Pokemon…
– Introducing idols into your life – buying glorifying statues, making an idol of musicians and actors…
– Singing or listening to evil music – not researching about the band, singer, lyrics, meanings…
– Playing, joking about serious things – vampires, zombies, voodoo, witches…
– Having “luck charms” – symbols, animals, saints, numbers…

Etc, etc, etc… I think you get the idea. If you are a Christian, I urge you to not overlook this topic. God wants us to be always willing to sanctify ourselves and become more like Jesus. Would Jesus do, watch, listen to, participate in the things you do? Be careful, brothers and sisters! Set a good example unto others so that they may also know and fear God!

Why God designed marriage to be between a man and woman. – A different approach.

I’m not going to write here about the “normal” approach given on this theme (about it being “natural”, about God creating man and woman, about the Bible forbidding homosexuality, about being fruitful and multiplying, etc) for there are many posts saying those things. I’m going to write about something more personal and emotional that has been on my mind these past weeks, that I’ve never read anything about or heard anyone comment on. I’ll try to make it as simple as I can.


Man and woman are different. 

Men want and need more respect. (Eph. 5:25) Women want and need more love. (Eph. 5:33) Therefore, men find it easier to show respect. Women find it easier to show love. Men are more rational, logic, tough, not-touchy. Women are more emotional, sentimental, delicate, touchy. Men have a waffle mind (dividing everything in compartments). Women have a spaghetti mind (linking events together).

All these things make man and woman’s coexistence complicated. Including marriage.

Girl plus Girl and Boy plus Boy = Easy peasy.

Girls know what girls like. Boys know what boys like. I can’t help but think how much simpler and easier relationships would be if one person knew about how the other person would react to everything, know exactly what to say to the other person without hurting them, knowing what gift they’d like best… simply by using the phrase, “How would I like them to treat me?” because, in all seriousness, having a relationship with someone that is your “opposite” (man x woman) is hard. It takes a lot of effort. I know not all girls and boys are the same, but we do share the same “principles”, dreams, desires and even “love languages” a lot of the time.

Why would God want, and better yet – design – the hard way?

When we have a loving relationship with another person (especially by marrying them) we mould each other. We are like a rock full of lumps and spikes that keep hurting and bumping into each other. Man and woman have different lumps and spikes, and by coexisting, they keep pushing against each other and eventually smoothing one another, making them more perfect, making them Jesus-like by taking away their selfishness and making them humble and true. This isn’t possible in a relationship where both people are almost the same, in other words, in a woman-woman or man-man one. They wouldn’t smoothen each other out! They wouldn’t perfect one another!

To me, marriage between man and woman is a beautiful, miraculous gift from God. It’s complicated and difficult, yet joyful and wonderful. Not to mention that God designed husband and wives for different purposes (who’d have whose role in a gay relationship?) that were perfectly entitled to each one according to what they do best and who they are.

Also, keep in mind that the ultimate marriage model is of Jesus Christ and the church, which is no easy goal, but a really worthwhile one.

“Enter through the narrow gate; for wide is the gate and spacious and broad is the way that leads away to destruction, and many are those who are entering through it.” (Matt. 7:13)

God designed man for woman and woman for man for a much greater purpose than the little keyhole we can look into. He knows what’s best for us. He knows what He’s doing. “What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder,” says Jesus. (Matt. 19:6)

PS: The “man” and “woman” descriptions I used are generalisations about how man and woman are – as God designed – none better than the other one. I know that some girls are boyish and some boys and girlish, but that’s another matter.

Facebookian emotions

If you, like me, have made various assumptions of the Facebook lifestyle, I highly reccomend the reading of this post by Jonathan Sherwin.

Christians, I believe, should keep watch on their online selves. Not just on what they post, like and comment on, but also on what feelings they are having by just viewing other people’s pictures and reading what they say. Emotions are very important, and if you’ve been feeling un-Godly ones, be careful! Do not cause your eyes to make you sin. On the first jealousy, greed or anger feeling you have because of something you’ve seen, you should close the web page, pray about it immediately and ask God for help. If need be, abstain from Facebook (or whatever social networking page it is) for a while until the Holy Spirit tells you you’re ready to use it again. I believe God can use Facebook for the good, but we, as Christians, have to have our full armour on so that we are prepared for whatever attacks our integrity.

There was a time when I was feeling so bad because of Facebook that God told me to shut down my account, have a time out (of a few months) and re-do everything later, really thinking about who to add and being very wise with my time on it and what I clicked on, read or felt. It has done me much good.