How should christian married people handle friendships with the opposite sex?

“We’re just friends. Can’t I have any friends?”
“We’ve never even touched each other.”
“We aren’t doing anything wrong.”
“You have jealousy issues.”
“You’re too controlling.”
“Don’t you trust me?”
“You’re the only one who sees a problem here.”
“I have no feelings for him/her other than friendship.”
“They’re like that with everyone.”
“You’re over-thinking and imagining things.”
“It’s not like we’re kissing or anything like that!”
“So I’m not allowed to have friends any more?”
“I’m sure they don’t have any romantic feelings for me.”
“I don’t have to tell you every single detail of what I do. What if I
forget something?”
“They’re in a relationship too, don’t worry.”
“You’re really insecure. You should have more confidence in yourself.”
“I don’t want to hurt her/him by not being friendly any more.”
“That didn’t come across right, but I know his/her intentions aren’t bad.”
“I trust him/her to not go over the line.”
“She/He’s just different and acts differently.”
“She/He doesn’t have same-gender friends to talk to.”
“She/He’s christian too.”
“I can’t believe you’d think I’d cheat on you!”
“You’re too conservative and old-fashioned.”
“You don’t know what she/he’s like, but I do!”
“I wouldn’t question anything if the same situation happened to you
because I trust you.”

If you’ve heard this from your spouse or you yourself have said these things when your spouse wants to talk about your friend of the opposite gender, be careful! It doesn’t have to be physical to be wrong. And just because you may not like them “in that way” doesn’t mean it’s ok either.

This is a very important topic that is many times ignored because it is difficult, can seem too restrictive and conservative. But it has to be discussed with your spouse. As soon as possible, raise the topic in an adequate moment when both of you are alone, wide awake, in good humour, with no distractions and have time to spare. (I know – when that adequate moment comes, you’d rather have intercourse with them, but bear in mind that this conversation will spare you from future rocky roads when both of you won’t even want to have intercourse because of a situation that happened.)

Initial, obvious and important considerations:
– Physical and emotional adultery are wrong and painful for both sides (and many times even for the third person involved, family and friends), have a snowball effect, are difficult to forgive and forget, cause (even more) lack of trust and honour and love that are hard to build up again. On that note, emotional affairs can be just as or even more (!) painful as physical affairs;
– The most common way of committing adultery is, by far, through developing friendships with the opposite sex that naturally grow “by mistake” (not by actively seeking it or being coerced by a random person – ex: prostitute);
– Alongside prayer (and fasting), setting boundaries is the most effective way of getting out of trouble.
– It is possible to change your mindset and lifestyle on this matter no matter how long you’ve been in the old one, what culture you live in or what general society has to say about it. Besides, honouring God and having a happy, healthy, long-lasting marriage relationship is totally worth the effort!
– You are not as strong as you think you are! As humans, we have a sinful, prideful, selfish and self-righteous nature that can very well bring us away from God and our spouses if we are not careful.

Insightful verses:
– Proverbs 27:12 “Those who are prudent see danger and take refuge, but the naive continue on and suffer the consequences.” (ESV) “A prudent man foreseeth the evil, and hideth himself; but the simple pass on, and are punished.” (KJV)
Matthew 5:27-28 “Ye have heard that it was said by them of old time, Thou shalt not commit adultery: But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.” (KJV)
Proverbs 4:23 “Above everything else guard your heart, because from it flow the springs of life.” (ISV) “Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life.” (KJV)
Malachi 2:16 “Indeed, the LORD God of Israel says that he hates divorce, along with the one who conceals his violence by outward appearances,” says the LORD of the Heavenly Armies. “So guard yourselves carefully, and don’t be unfaithful.” (ISV) “For the LORD, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away: for one covereth violence with his garment, saith the LORD of hosts: therefore take heed to your spirit, that ye deal not treacherously.”(KJV)

The Bible talks about the danger of sexual immorality (fornication) many times and gives guidelines for people to have a good marriage. Do not take this issue lightly or naively! Do not think you’re automatically protected from sin or third-parties if you are married! The devil will use any little door to get in your life and destroy your marriage because he hates marriage! So do not open those dangerous doors and think you are in control of the situation. Study and pray about it and do your best to obey the Lord.

We live in a fallen world that is so corrupt that it has been influencing many christians without them realising it. What’s “normal” to the world doesn’t mean it’s ok. Our minds have become so sexualised that we have been loosing our senses, stretching our boundaries like elastic bands until they snap in our faces and we don’t even know where we went wrong. Please understand that I am not trying to make you scared or apprehensive. Instead, I want to show you the vaccination in order to not get the sickness to not have to show you which remedy may heal the problem you’ve got because you did not have precaution.

I’ve researched intensely about how christians should deal with having opposite-sex friends and have found some webpages that have been very helpful to me. So, if you are having doubts about this topic, I greatly encourage you to read these external links that talk about this issue practically:

Detailed explanation of how important boundaries are and where place them. (Disclaimer: This is not a Christian website, but it is spot-on on the issue of opposite-sex friendships.)
– List of questions to ask yourself or to give to your spouse to answer them honestly in order to know if a certain opposite-sex friendship should end.
Rules to apply and example of a true story of a woman who had to change her views and ways regarding opposite-sex friendships when she married.
Case study for married people and insight for single people as a means of precaution.
How to avoid emotional adultery and chemical reactions “I’m not just talking about sexual attraction. I’m referring to a reaction of two hearts, the chemistry of two souls.”
How to deal with jealousy issues. Is jealousy the problem or is it a consequence of a problem?
Rules, real case for married and single (women especially).
Explanation specifically to men in a humorous tone, explaining why the psycho crazy jealous wife is actually right.
I am thinking of having an affair (for women).

When talking to your spouse about this issue, don’t just say things have to and will change. Set actual rules and boundaries, talk about real and imaginary situations and what to do in each example. Highlight what needs immediate change and be completely honest and transparent with each other about the past and the present. Be practical and be quick! Give each other your passwords to everything online, get rid of all friendships with former lovers, always let them know about who you are engaging with, talk about former and present friends that have bothered you or them at some point, be bold about your marriage to other people and put your priorities straight – God, spouse, then others!

Because of certain “passages” that were open – be it by sinning knowingly or by naivety – there may be demons that entered into your marriage life. To get rid of those demons, I recommend reading this website page that has helped me get rid of a specific demon that was tormenting my marriage.

Onward married christian soldiers!

A biblical study on zombies.

There are people who have been attacked by zombies – some are attacked in the material world (like in the Miami zombie case), but most are attacked in the spiritual level (they happen in dreams and visions). This apocalyptical plague’s tendency is to worsen.

First of all, let’s clarify that there are two types of zombies:
– The living zombie: According to voodoo (sorcery, witchcraft), their soul is taken out and they act by instinct, as happened with Nebuchadnezzar, one of Babylon’s king, when his understanding was taken away.
– The dead zombie: They are called “egun/egungun” in african rituals. They are not demons. They are dead people that are roving the earth, sucking people’s energies, in order to stay on Earth. In the Bible, we have a case in 1 Samuel 23, of the medium of Endur, where the egun came up to earth and tricked king Saul, saying it was the prophet Samuel. In Haiti voodoo rituals, people often dig up the dead to resuscitate them and pay honours to them.

Science only explains the “living zombie” case. Scientists discovered that the human mind is divided into 3 parts. Each one of them is linked with a type of human activity: Emotional, rational and instinctive.

Emotional: Limbic System – Emotion (feelings, relationship/nurturing, images and dreams, play)
Rational: Neocortex – Thought (including planning, language, logic & will, awareness)
Instinctive: Reptilian Brain – Instinct (survival, breathing/swallowing/heartbeat, startle response, having sex – reproducing, aggressiveness)

In this way, science explains that a living zombie is a person whose rational and emotional sides are taken away from them, and only her reptilian brain works, thus trying to survive with their primitive instincts. (This is why reptilians and zombies are so alike.) Science doesn’t have anything to say about the dead zombies, the ones that emerge from the abyss… but the Bible does!

We read in the book of the prophet Daniel that he predicted the resurrection of the dead, saying some people would a resurrect to life, others to shame and eternal horror. “And many of those who sleep in the dust of the earth shall awake, some to everlasting life, some to shame and everlasting contempt/abhorrence.” Daniel 12:2 What would this “eternal horror” that the prophet Daniel is referring to? Would this be the zombies’ reality? Maybe Daniel knew more things about zombies for he lived in Babylon, where he was chief of the magicians. Daniel 5:11

In the book of Daniel, we read that the king of Babylon had his soul taken away, along with his understanding, leading him into a life of instincts, just like the animals. Daniel 5:21 And so, would Nebuchadnezzar have become a zombie?

We know that Daniel lived a vegetarian food-style and kept away from the king’s table. Daniel 1:16 But what was it that was served on that table? Maybe human meat? We have an answer for that question in Jeremiah 51:34 “Nebuchadnezzar king of Babylon has devoured us, he has thrown us into confusion, he has made us an empty jar. Like a serpent he has swallowed us and filled his stomach with our delicacies, and then has spewed us out.” What about the king’s wine? Well, it was probably blood, Daniel 1:8 because Babylon, in Revelation 17:6, was accused of drinking blood. And so, Daniel decided to become a vegetarian.

By the way, when Daniel was thrown into the lion’s den, the lions didn’t devour him because the Lord sent an angel to shut their mouths. But what types of angels were Daniel’s companions? Would they be the green angels – from the same lineage as the archangel Gabriel? We can know that by reading Daniel 10:6. I believe Daniel’s vegetarian diet also helped, because some lion tamers eat vegetables so that the lions don’t smell the meat that is embedded in the bodies of those who eat meat. Maybe Daniel becoming a vegetarian was a divine strategy to maintain him alive in Babylon. When the king of Babylon turned into a zombie, he had to submit himself to a vegetarian diet too, by eating herbs. Daniel 5:21 Would this be a way of escaping the zombies?

Zechariah 11:910 says that, in the end of the Grace period, humans would be condemned to eat each other’s meat. Revelation 9:3-6 says that when a star falls on the ground, the bottomless pit shall open and loosen the locusts rising up from depths to devour people. But they do not devour anything green. The bible says that these locusts will sting people and the torment of that sting is like that of a scorpion.

What can the sting of a scorpion do to someone? The neurotoxins produced by scorpions act by stimulating nerve endings. The body of the person who was bitten releases chemical substance mediators who bring disorder in the circulatory system. The person has convulsions, tremors and involuntary muscle contractions. This explains the powers that certain preachers that throw people on the floor have – their anointing comes from these eguns. The famous preacher Benny Hinn, for example, clearly said he will seek the anointing by praying at the tomb of Kuhlman Kathryn.

What do zombies eat first about people? Their eyes. The legends say they attack the head, eyes and devour brains. Where Sodom and Gomorrah were full of zombies? The angels who were destroying the city blinded its people and warned the family of Lot to not look back. But Lot’s wife looked and was turned into a statue of salt. Maybe the cannibal eguns entered into her when she looked. Genesis 19 (When the eguns appear in african spiritual tribal work, they can not be seen, so they cover themselves, just like in 1 Samuel 28:13-14.) Then it rained fire (meteor?) and sulfur (salt!) on the cities of Sodom and Gomorrah and even today there is the Dead Sea there, where those cities once were.

In the book of Jude 1:6-7 the’s an important revelation about what was happening in Sodom. They were practicing sex in the spiritual world. There are people who have out of body experiences to sexually relate with people when they are sleeping, moved by the lust of the eyes. And the person wakes up thinking it was a dream, but it was not a dream. The prostitution that the book of Revelations talks about that happens in the great city of Babylon happens in the material realm, but it progresses into the spiritual realm. The Bible says in Revelation 22:11, he that is holy, let him be more holy, and who is filthy, let him be more filthy. Therefore, there is a progression in the sinful state. If you research about the life of cannibal killers, you will see that they started with prostitution, afterwards going to the field of ideas. They began to fantasize things in their head and then do perverted sex and end up eating the flesh of the people with whom he had relations. These psychopaths passed into the spiritual field, which is infested by spiritual eguns. So they became easy prey and became zombies controlled by cannibalistic eguns.

Let’s now go to Egypt, where the babies were thrown into the river Nile, where the crocodiles were. Exodus 1:22 The crocodile was an adored animal in Egypt, and pharaoh was also called a crocodile. Did he eat the babies? Ezequiel 29:3 We can also ask other questions such as: Were the hebrews turned into zombies when they were working on those pharaonic constructions after eating human meat? When the Israelites went out of Egypt, the Lord determined that they should have a mana diet. Exodus 16:35 And on the day that they desired to eat of the Egyptian food, millions of them died in the desert. Numbers 11:34 But, what was this Egyptian food? Meat! Numbers 11:4

The Israelites coming out of Egypt is very similar to the church’s rapture. In Egypt, one of the plagues that happened was the frog plague, which also appears in the end of times in Revelation 16:13-16, where the spirits of the false prophets are compares to frogs, that come to deceive people. These prophets come to zombify the people in mass for them to fight against Christ. In Haiti they say that in the frog’s body, there is a substance that is capable of making a person dead for a few minutes, making them go into a zombie state.

The eguns appear in visions as bodies in decomposition. Jesus could’ve been seeing just that in the pharisees when He said, “Woe to you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites ! For you are like whitewashed tombs which on the outside appear beautiful, but inside they are full of dead men’s bones and all uncleanness.” Matthew 23:27 Jesus also said in another occasion,“Follow Me, and allow the dead to bury their own dead.” Matthew 8:28

The false prophets zombify people because their anointment comes from the cannibal eguns. (For example, when they say, “You have to challenge God, for He has to fulfill his Word!” or “God will exalt you!” or “God will fill your pockets up with money!”) God told us to come out of Babylon, for the time has come for Babylon to be devoured by the beast. Babylon, or Egypt, symbolise the fallen Christianity, that is modified, an adulterer and corrupted.

The fallen angels that acted in Sodom and Gomorrah are locked up, waiting for the day of the judgment to be released. This will happen in the end of the grace period. Luke 17:26-29 Jesus said the end of times will be like the days of the great flood and in Sodom and Gomorrah. What was happening during both situations? In Noah’s time, the nephilims were possessing/having sex with the human daughters. Genesis 6:4 So, in both situations, prostitution in a spiritual level was taking place.

So, how do the eguns start oppressing people? Through blasphemy, pornography, insults and offenses. The person starts hearing blasphemies against God in their head. Many curse words and obscene pictures come to mind. Revelation 13:1-6 And so, the person thinks their the one producing those things, but that’s not true. Their blasphemies against God, so these spirits start to influence the person’s thoughts, beginning a period of oppression. Then, the spirits start invading the person’s privacy when they are sleeping. The person then starts to commit sexual perversions and desire human meat. It’s a strong feeling that comes from inside of the people that are used to committing adultery in the spiritual level. Galatians 5:17

Amongst all these enigmas lies a very important enigma in Egypt that signifies the real freedom. It was the death of the lamb and its blood on the hebrew’s doors. Only by the blood of Jesus can we find true freedom!

If you have been having dreams about zombies, about having perverted sexual relations with people you don’t know, are thinking about bad things or desiring a lot of meat, I hope all this writing will open your eyes and you ask God for help.

Romans 8:8 – Those who are in the flesh cannot please God.